Defusing Arguments

Why argue? The instinct is to try and persuade the other person you are right and they are wrong. In return they are likely to try and persuade you they are right, so the debate begins. Sometimes issues are clarified and a shared understanding emerges, that is a good...

Fighting Over Nothing

When is disagreement about something and when is it about nothing? Perhaps it may help to rephrase that… Often conflict causes disagreements about not very much or even nothing at all! The problem is the conflict, not the issue.  We see this all the time in mediation....

No Judges

This week, instead of  a blog we’ve something a little different. Four months since our case was listed, We had no judge, the court had missed it. Counsel for the other side was cross Three of his cases were a total loss. Three in two weeks had not been heard,...