Family Finance update 2019
We're delighted to announce our Family Finance update for 2019 in collaboration with Pump Court Chambers. Full details and the agenda for the afternoon can be found by clicking on the following link: Family Finance Update brochure 2019.
Co-Parenting After A Split
When you split from a partner and children aren’t involved, you don’t have to see each other. This allows time to heal and process the split. Separated parents don’t have that ‘luxury’. Their children need them both and parents need to share information and make child...
Your Mediation Questions Answered – Focus Mediation
I’m nervous about my Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting ‘MIAM’. It’s normal to feel nervous but it’s a relaxed meeting and the mediator will do their best to put you at ease. It’s an opportunity for you both to meet and establish a rapport. The mediator will...
How to Move Forward From Divorce Pain
Divorce is a huge trauma. Accept that it’s ok to be hurt and angry and that it will take time to heal. Talk, talk, talk. Confide in your friends and family and especially those who are good listeners. Don’t get bitter. There comes a point when it can be unhealthy to...
Children and Divorce – Walking Away
A child’s long journey towards independence starts when it is born. A very long period of dependence follows into infancy through babyhood to childhood and beyond. Parents need to be in it for the long haul, ready to encourage independence and self-reliance,...
Children Are Not Cake – To Be Cut Up To Suit
Our children are not our belongings – they belong to themselves. If parents separate, children must not normally be cut off from a parent, who is after all half of their creation. Nor should their time be cut up in some cruel way without their feelings being taken...
Kids Don’t Know What’s Going On – Divorce
Parents know how perceptive children can be. Watch this clip of Tiana, a very intuitive six-year-old. Her parents had been arguing and she asked her mother to listen to her. Tiana asked both to stop fighting and be friends again. She asked them to calm down and to...
Co-Parenting after Separation 2019
The fundamental principle, when dealing with cases involving children, is that their welfare is paramount and their best interests must come first. Sometimes parents dealing with their own emotions forget their children may also be suffering. Their lives will change...
The Perils of Social Media + Divorce
Divorcing couples experience trauma. It takes time to grieve for their marriage and eventually heal and move forward. Anger forms a significant part of the process and doesn’t mix well with social media. Before posting about your divorce on Facebook or other social...
Controllers – Do They Come in Pairs?
Often in mediation we see the couple separately for their first meetings. This gives people an opportunity to be very frank and open about their situation. Often one will say “S/he’s a controller, and I’m unsure I can cope with mediation!” Then the other...