by focusmediation | May 29, 2014 | Family, Separation
The Child Support Agency (CSA) will close and is being replaced by the Child Maintenance Service – but they’ve dropped the words “and Enforcement” from its title – because that’s what it will do. So we can’t say what it’s to do on the tin, it might upset people! There...
by focusmediation | May 22, 2014 | Family, Mediation
I qualified as a solicitor in 1979 and most of my professional life was spent working as a family lawyer. In the late 1990s I was handling the usual caseload of mainly financial cases and some children work. A male client came to my office distraught one Monday...
by focusmediation | May 15, 2014 | Mediation
Why argue? The instinct is to try and persuade the other person you are right and they are wrong. In return they are likely to try and persuade you they are right, so the debate begins. Sometimes issues are clarified and a shared understanding emerges, that is a good...
by focusmediation | May 7, 2014 | Family, Mediation
When is disagreement about something and when is it about nothing? Perhaps it may help to rephrase that… Often conflict causes disagreements about not very much or even nothing at all! The problem is the conflict, not the issue. We see this all the time in mediation....